For the entirety of my young adult life, my New Years Resolutions have always been the same. I think the reason my resolutions end up being the same every single year is because every year I would never actually follow through with them. So every new year, was a another year I was going to “really do it this time”.
Anyway, my New Years Resolutions always looked something like this:
- Lose weight
- Get fit
- Switch to a more natural lifestyle
- Make healthier choices when it comes to food
- Drink less
- Make this summer the best one yet
And that list would sort of go on-and-on, following the same trend that you see above. Everything is just so surface level and so vain.
Looking back, it is so embarrassing to think that what I was going to do in 2016, my big contribution to the new year, was to look great in a bathing suit.
So, I have decided it is time to make some changes.
So after a lot of soul-searching, here are the 2017 New Years Resolutions from the Big Blonde Brain.
Mind my own business.
This one might be hard to explain but for me it means that I don’t need to know 103% of the details regarding a situation that I am not a part of.
Be kinder, in front of people and behind their back.
I am entitled to my own opinions but until I have been in your shoes, or have gone through the experiences you have who am I to say anything?
Be better at having and holding conversations with my friends.
Anyone who knows me knows that I am the worst at 1.) Texting you back and 2.) Answering the phone when you call. I don’t know what it is, sometimes I am just exhausted from human-ing all day and the last thing I want to do is talk to anyone about anything. Which brings me to my next resolution…
Talk about myself less.
This is going to sound so terrible but something I have noticed with myself is that in conversation I always flip the conversation around to talk about myself in some way. It’s very unattractive and incredibly annoying. Now I don’t always do this! But I notice myself doing it more than is appropriate. I am not sure if anyone else notices this, but I do and I am not a fan.
Be more trusting in Gods plan for my life and my life with my Husband.
Simple as that.
Stop just saying things because I think it’s what people want to hear.
Yet another moment of self realization. Sometimes I will just agree with people and their view on a situation because I am afraid that if I don’t, they won’t look at me the same or think we have anything in common. I have noticed that I will just say whatever I think the person opposite me in conversation wants to hear and that has to change. I am entitled to my thoughts and opinions and I have the freedom to express them.
Put more effort into my blog.
I love to write and to write about things that resonate with others, particularly those close to my age or in a part of their life that is similar to mine.
Be honest about when I do and don’t want to do something.
I am famous for saying “I don’t care” and then feeling so sad that I didn’t stick up for what I wanted to do or where I wanted to go. I am also notorious for saying “I don’t care, you pick” and then getting pissed off when the other person (a tall, bearded man to whom I am betrothed who shall remain nameless) makes the decision and it’s not what I really wanted.
Try to be more patient.
I have a tendency to brush things and people off rather quickly but I should probably remember that not everyone comes from the same circumstances as I do.
Make a baby.
I am so ready to become a Mother and my Husband is going to be the most amazing Father. I can’t say when it will happen, it may be months into the New Year. But I am determined.
And just for fun, here is a short list of things that I will not deal with in 2017.
Watch my language.
Every year I say I am going to be more lady-like in my choice of words. While I know there is an appropriate time and volume at which to use foul language I will not slap myself on the hand for letting one slip out.
Stress about things outside of my control.
If I cannot change it, why am I worrying about it? Is losing sleep at night going to make it better? If I eat my feelings for a week straight is a magical fairy going to show up and solve all my problems? No.
Put overwhelming amounts of pressure on myself about money.
Are our bills paid? Do we have a good life? We do? Okay, then I am fine with that. My Husband and I are still under 30 so as long as we can say we’re doing our best, and we’re being responsible with our financial choices I would say there is nothing to really worry about. Everything works itself out.
Eat because I am bored or stressed.
That helps literally nothing and no one, most importantly myself.
So there it is, the line-up of resolutions I have for 2017. I am sure I will screw some of them up at some point or another but for the most part I think I can handle these.
And you know what I think? I think if I can manage to do all of those things, those “surface-level” things I want to accomplish will come to me as a by-product. I think these resolutions are the makings of seeing a better image of myself. I think if I can follow through with those resolutions I will start to feel (and maybe even look) like a happier, more confident person. Someone who truly loves who she is.