Currently, I am sitting on my closet floor typing this because when this idea hit me I knew I had to get it out of my brain as soon as possible. Not to say this isn’t something I have been planning for a while but it is finally making its way out of my brain and is being strung together in the sentences you will read next.
This year I am making only one single solitary resolution to myself. No, it’s not to lose weight or run a 5k or be better with money (although…I will be doing that to haha). It is so much more important than that.
This will be without a doubt the most important and intricate resolution I have ever and will ever make. It is so important that I hold true to this resolution for the benefit of myself, my family, and our future. My resolution, when you read it, will sound simple and boring and probably have you saying, “wow, the build up for this was a little much”. But that’s fine. No offense, but it doesn’t need to make sense to anyone but me.
My resolution is this.
I am going to make promises to myself at the beginning of this year and I am going to keep every. single. damn. one of them.
Matter of fact, I am renaming the phrase. It is no longer “New Years Resolutions”. I am calling these “Promises I will Keep in the New Year”. Or some variation of that. I will get it all figured out before it’s trademarked don’t worry, haha.
Again these aren’t promises like, “I promise to eat healthier”, or “I promise not to spend money on frivolous things” (the Target dollar spot is my weakness and 99% of the time snagging a cute piece of home decor for only $3 will make my day). I am making several promises to myself that will be life changing. Promises that, when the 2019 year comes to an end and I have KEPT all of them, will shape my future as a wife, a mother, and most importantly as the person I am becoming.
New years resolutions are so interesting to me. At the beginning of the year we make these very bold yet incredibly achievable “promises” to ourselves about all these things we are going to do in the new year. Now, if you are like me, those resolutions or promises are abandoned by about March at the latest. I asked myself this morning why that is. Why am I so quick to give up on myself? I vow to do these things that will inevitably make MY life better if I fulfill them and yet it is so easy for me to just quit on them. To quit on MYSELF.
Why is that? If I promised one of my friends that I would come over and help her paint her bedroom I would never just not show up. I made a promise. So, why are WE the first people we break promises to? Heck, we should be the most important person to keep a promise to! OURSELVES!
These promises I will make for myself will include goals. Goals I plan on accomplishing in the new year. Some of these goals are huge, enormous, life changing goals and even if I don’t fully achieve them (which I know I will but just in case) I want to look back on my journey getting there and be proud of how far I’ve come. I want to look back on my time climbing that mountain and be proud of myself that I even had the courage to set out to accomplish such an outlandish goal in the first place.
I’m going to go ahead and share those promises and goals with you now. I don’t know if it’s for the accountability or what. I am hoping that at the end of this year I will be more a proof of concept for you. Proof that when you commit to YOURSELF you can accomplish anything. When YOU stop standing in your own way, anything is possible.
My 2019 promises to myself:
I will stop quitting on things including myself. If I promise myself I am going to do something, I am going to do it.
I will get rid of all negative self talk. When I start to say something negative about myself I will replace those words with things that are wonderful about myself.
I will self publish the children’s book that I wrote almost 5 years ago.
I will keep the laundry from piling up in the laundry room.
I will go to bed every night (no matter what) with a clean kitchen.
I will be making an extra $1000 a month from my blog by the end of 2019.
I will set my alarm for 5:00 am and only hit snooze once then get up and work on my ONLY my blog.
I will work out for at least 30 minutes every day.
I will stop comparing MY story with everyone else’s.
I will make more room in my busy schedule for sexy time with my husband.
I will grow my online blog following to 10k followers by the end of 2019.
I will work with my husband to get us 50% out of any debt by June and be 100% out of debt by the end of 2019.
I will take my son to do something fun out of the house at least once a week.
I will stop complaining about things that I am not doing anything to change the circumstances of.
I will take ownership of where I am right now in my life acknowledging the parts that are lacking of which are my fault (aka, no more blaming everything else).
I have spent the last few years not celebrating any of my accomplishments no matter how big or small they were because I have been so focused on where I WASN’T yet.
“That’s great, I got a new job making a bunch more money and I get to be home with my kid but my blog still isn’t my business.”
What? Why has that been my mindset? Instead of spending my time celebrating what I HAD done I was hyper-focusing on what I HADN’T done yet. That mindset is out the window.
A lot of this post is rambling but hey, that’s the glory of my blog. It’s mine and I can say whatever I would like in whatever fashion I would like.
I encourage you ladies to do the same. Write your goals out no matter how big or small and promise yourself you will work towards achieving them. Do this for you.
Stop with the self deprecation, better yet, STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF. Stop looking around your life and pointing out only the areas you are lacking and start being proud of the areas you are flourishing. And then head back to the drawing board and make yourself more promises.
You are in control of your own happiness and it took me years to finally realize this. If I am unhappy with something in my life, all the complaining and bitching and moaning in the world isn’t going to make it better. This is MY year. As shitty as it sounds, everything I do in 2019 will be for ME. Which when you read, sounds incredibly narcissistic but I realized if I do everything in my power to make myself happy I will undoubtedly be a better wife, mother, friend, daughter, sister, you name it.
So, all of that to say my new years resolution is so simple and yet so complicated. I am making promises to myself and keeping them. Every. Single. One.